Baby shower games like baby bingo, guess the baby food and the diapering race are slowly becoming a thing of the past. Some of us truly enjoy these baby showers and others of us are looking for additional ways to celebrate the new baby, impending motherhood/fatherhood and the introduction of a new family member. I am hearing new creative ideas on how to celebrate, some are traditions like a Blessingway that has been passed along over time and others are brand new modern ways of celebration.
The Blessingway:
Blessingway is a tradition passed down from the Navaho people. The Navaho honored many rites of passages with a ceremony to prepare them for the transformation that was coming. Often times in our culture we honor the baby and focus on what material items the family will need for the transformation and we forget about the emotional and spiritual side of the transformation. For this reason American women have begun to create their own ceremonies.
Typically a friend/family member who is intimately connected with the mother to be plans the ceremony. There are many different ideas to fit different personalities and needs but the one core value the ceremony has is celebrating the woman and her rite of passage. The woman is celebrated through good food, love and stores that remind the mother of the qualities she possess to get her through her passage. Here are some ideas for a blessing way ceremony that I have personally experienced, seen in books, or heard from others.
1. At the ceremony everyone brings beads to make a necklace for the woman to wear while giving birth. As people are putting the necklace together they tell stories about the mother to remind her of her strength, courage and other amazing qualities that she possess.
2. Pass a ball of yarn around from person to person wrapping the strand around each person’s wrist. This is to symbolize your connection to the mother. As each bracelet is made a story is shared. Everyone continues to wear these until the baby is born.
3. A rock, crystal or some other beautiful object is passed around while recounting stories about the mother. This object is then used as a focal point in the birth.
4. Candles can be made with quotes on them that remind everyone of the mothers amazing qualities. As the birth begins a set person calls the group and everyone lights their candles, or alternatively the mother keeps the candles and uses them as a focal point during labor.
5. A henna tattooist is hired and create a beautiful art work on the mothers belly.
The Blessingway can take place each and every time a women is pregnant, after all every pregnancy and birth is different and with it the women has changed. There are so many more ideas that I have heard and that we can create. In addition to the ceremony don’t forget amazing food, music, tea and an esthetically beautiful celebration.
The Coed Party:
If you ask most men they will say that they are glad to not be included in the traditional baby showers. However, it is a rite of passage for both parents and so should be celebrated as such. For this reason many couples are now having multiple showers, the baby shower, the Blessingway to celebrate mom and the cooed party to celebrate the parents. The feel of the cooed parties are again whatever fits the parents the best. Most of the cooed parties that I have attended have been just that, a party. There is an intention to the party and that it is to celebrate the parents. Some keys to a coed baby shower to keep both sexes happy are: if there are presents there is not a big opening in front of everyone, no baby games, lots of good food/drinks, and there is often a table with paper for those who would like to offer advice, possible name, well wish. It is a celebration of the fact that a union of two is becoming three, or more. Here are a few ideas that I have heard people do.
1. Camping with friends for the weekend.
2. Throwing a theme party that fits the couple i.e. a luau, a Huskers game day bash etc.
3. BBQ
The Cooed Party basically asks that the intention is set from the very beginning that this rite of passage is happening to both partners.
I would love to hear any other creative party ideas in the comment section of the blog!!!!